She simply wants to protect her feelings. Nevertheless, most women I've coached have had men seem very interested only to disappear suddenly. These women are left standing in the dark. Once the guy vanishes, they often find out it's easier to get the President of the United States on the phone than the man who seemingly really liked them This should stop. I, as a dating coach and author of books for women who want to get men, cannot take it anymore.
You deserve better. This is not your fault. It's his! He needs to learn to be much more transparent and upfront. That said, we both know most men won't change. We can lead a horse to water, but we can't make it drink. Or can we? What if there was a way to change a guy's behavior?
What if you could get into his head and take over the driver's wheel? What if you could make him do more of the things that you appreciate and need and less of the bad behaviors you dislike? At first, this might seem impossible. Nevertheless, I'm sure you've already met women who are good at manipulating their men. Enter the high-value woman.
You know her. You've seen her. She's the woman who always has great men drooling over her. It's the woman you see getting all the attention. You often wonder, "How does she do it?
What do they see in her? What does she know that I don't? Your girlfriends may have even said, "He doesn't know what he's missing. When you look at these high-value women who get their way with men, it might have surprised you that their looks don't seem to matter.
The high-value woman can be great looking, average looking, or even bad looking. It doesn't matter. She knows her way around men. Are you ready to implement her strategies? You'll see behavior you've never seen from him. He'll start to put in an effort that makes you feel like you're a queen because to him, you are.
At first, it will be strange. If you've never truly been in control of a man, it might feel like riding a horse for the first time. But soon, it will make you feel all tingly inside. I'm not kidding. There's nothing more powerful than being in a relationship with a guy and having him do exactly what you want while he thinks it was his idea.
This is important, as you'll see. He needs to think he is the one in the driver's seat, even though you actually are. This book is not about becoming someone you're not or turning your boyfriend into a spineless manslave. It's about your empowerment, about taking back what's yours. No man should ever be able to play games with you, to take you for granted, to treat you even a tiny bit less than you deserve. By the time you've finished this book, this will all be part of your past.
It's a trope in many popular sitcoms - Friends, Seinfeld, Coupling, Sex and the City - We want to know what the other side is thinking and such discussions are a source of endless amusement. This book tries to answer these questions with some tips and a lot of humor. I finished this one pretty fast - the book uses biological roles, some research and plenty of anecdotes.
Give this one a try for a fresh perspective on relationships. Now for some relationship advice from The King. View all 13 comments. I started reading this book while I was going through a rough patch in my relationship, and I'm plain disgusted by the contents of the book.
Here's a gist of the book: 'If you are a hard-working, sincere, honest-to-God, monogamous, affectionate, wear-your - heart-on-your-sleeve kind of person, who values relationships, you're a NICE girl.
And in case, you are naive enough to not take her word for 'what men love', she'll directly quote them and turn you into a believer. Towards the end of the book, there is even an appendix of "Sherry's Attraction Principles" which just reminded me how much of a waste this book was The horrible advice, definitely fake quotes, the constant stories about power playing in relationships It was just too much bullshit. Although this book contains some good advice, handy tips and plenty of focus on self-worth, it has one fault that prevents it from covering all bases.
The author's theories all work on the premise of traditional gender roles. There is a lot of focus on the alpha male stereotype, and throughout the book the idea that all women have the same goals in a relationship is prevalent.
Not everybody fits into the author's polar presentations of male and female. She draws a lot from anecdotal evidence, an Although this book contains some good advice, handy tips and plenty of focus on self-worth, it has one fault that prevents it from covering all bases. She draws a lot from anecdotal evidence, and so too shall I: I am a woman, and I love the thrill of a chase. There is a whole section devoted to why women ought not to act as the initiator, which I personally found disheartening.
Although the title suggests a forward thinking, liberal attitude towards relationships, this book was very conservative. Finally, what bothered me most was the "dumb fox" theory - in short, that women should pretend the men in their lives are the ones with the authority whilst achieving their own goals in a sneaky or subtle manor. That is entirely the wrong message to send out to women, young or old.
It contradicts the notions of pride and independence found elsewhere in the book. I thought this book was extremely depressing. I will say the first chapters are all about self confidence.
I pride myself on wearing my heart on my sleeve, which is certainly a turn off to many people, nevermind men. This trait alone the book considers a kiss of death.
In order to look out for my priorities and happiness, I have to shut up. Comparing men to seals clapping their fins for salmon salmon being sex, obviously was discouraging. Of course, she does take a moment to point out that any man who describes himself as a feminist is likely to quit his job and take up residence on the couch while you support him.
The whole goal of this book is to find a man who will treat you with respect. Which is great! But there never seemed to be…well, anything about love. I have to wonder if the author expects anyone to honestly communicate ever, or is it all just maneuvering to make sure you get what you deserve?
Or something. Be aloof. Never need him. Most of all, never be needy. She refers to romantic relationships as business transactions. Everyone has to bring something to the table, and your crazy woman emotions are certainly not an asset.
Peppered in-between every extreme statement that makes you lose faith in humanity, is a statement to counter balance it all. I was exhausted just imagining living a life constructed around making all the right decisions when interacting with someone who at any minute might become a selfish, self-serving asshole who would stop at nothing to take advantage of me.
I used the advice in the first half of the book, and got a rather good result. Then proceeded to hate the human race for the next week because if this does work, I just have no faith anymore.
The fella in question can go to hell. And if I got nothing else out of it, her book showed me that much. Jan 13, Ladan rated it it was ok Shelves: relationship , must-read-as-a-teen. Now that she knows all the characteristics of such a person, she offers girls to fake those features in order to resemble one! Nothing is wrong with that since in today's world it works! Yet, I prefer the old hard way of becoming a bitch rather than imitating one.
I mean even if you get someone to be with you by faking who y "Fake it fake it till you make it for dummies " Apparently, Argov is back analyzing an independent, smart, strong, mature, assertive, and confident human being THE BITCH!
I mean even if you get someone to be with you by faking who you really are not deep down you know that , you always have the fear of losing them the very moment they find out. Why squander your time and energy? Use your resources to be a bitch. Takes time yet is real. Although it is a fun read, as a reader I feel offended. In fact, the book is pages of repetitive stuff as if the reader is a stupid person who has to be reminded of each idea several times in several paraphrased versions backed up by a stupid name's experience who may even do not exist!
Her strive for making her words stick in one's mind by repetition is doomed. Even Ladan Loves bitches! In my mind, the bitch who has been precisely defined and described in detail throughout the book is devoid of gender. However, the presumption in this book is that the bitch is a girl. Once I dated a guy who was no individual but a fucked up model of whoever I said I wanted and loved to be with.
He ordered whatever I did, loved whatever I loved, pretended to enjoy whatever I enjoyed while I knew he was suffering. The only thing that tied us up was his love for books. Whenever he came to pick me up, he used to fill the back of his car with books. Some of which I crave to read and discuss with him right now too late for this realization! The mere fact that he feared to be himself made me dislike him. I detest this way of looking at things especially things which are as dynamic as human beings.
Let's change the roles. If you enjoy dating a none-bitch-guy then be my guest and assume that the bitch is a girl! I can smell evolution! I assume being a bitch has a root in evolution. As natural selection offers, one needs to interact with their environments to cause variations in traits to stay in the game! As a bitch one is dynamic, meaning they respond to their surroundings, and to others behaviours in the most possible optimized way. View all 5 comments.
This book is such BS. It's not worth the read. I was rolling my eyes throughout most of it. I thought this book would be all about female empowerment in relationships but instead it's another self help book telling women how to act in order to get men to like them. If you want to find the man for you the solution is easy, just be yourself. That's it. That's all. Eventually somebody will come along who will love everything about you. Whether you're a "bitch" or not. So sick of books putting down ot This book is such BS.
So sick of books putting down other women and telling them or anyone how to act. This book also generalizes men. It makes them seem like they are all the same, which is completely false.
Honestly if you're looking for a good feminist read don't waste your time on this book. And if you're looking for relationship advice the only thing you need to do is be true to yourself. Ok, first of all, I know you're reading this and rolling your eyes!!! It was a gag gift I got from my friend for my birthday so I gave it a whirl while I was at the gym- and finished it in a snap.
It's actually pretty good! Bitch isn't really "bitch" in the traditional sense of the word. Basically her point is that women should have their own lives going on and that that's more attractive to men. Seriously since this is news to so many women, I'm happy for the author that Ok, first of all, I know you're reading this and rolling your eyes!!! Seriously since this is news to so many women, I'm happy for the author that she made a grip of money on spelling it out.
But she offers a delightful recipe for microwave popcorn which she professes is the only thing you should cook a guy and pointers on how to get a spine. First of all, I do like one message from the book. It's to respect yourself and expect to be respected. The advice to not put up with bad behaviors is much needed considering many women do tolerate a lot of bad treatments in an attempt to find and keep a relationship.
So one extra star for that. This book follows the premise that any quality man out there will want a lot of distance in the relationship, do not care or want intimacy, only in it for the chase, abhor any kind of communication, only show interest if you are completely independent and have no emotional needs, have a big ego that needs to be stroked constantly.
Just look at adult attachment statistic. Men who are attracted to women following tactics advocated in this book most likely fall into this category. Will you get a man following the advice of this book? Will he be a "quality guy" as the author claims in the book? Well, that depends how you define the term.
A quality man is one who's considerate enough to call when he says he'll call, lets you know ahead if he can't make it to see you, discusses plans with you and actually wants to hear your opinions, makes you feel comfortable when you want know where you stand in the relationship, not afraid of intimacy, and actually wants to be close to you rather than keeping distance.
I know because my partner is like this and he is neither atypical or a wuss. On the other hand, if you prefer a guy who does not want emotional intimacy, pays attention to you only when you ignore him, does not care about your needs unless you act aloof or fake not caring, Argov advocates just that. The most detrimental aspect about the book is that it promotes distance and control through feigning aloofness, manipulation, and deception, which in the long run will just harm the relationship.
Ask a happy couple what is required for a healthy relationship, and TRUST will inadvertently come up. So if you constantly have to hold back your concerns and use trickeries and withdrawal to get what you need, how is trust supposed to be built? The advice of this book works to attract men who feel uncomfortable with intimacy, those who much rather keep an emotional distance.
Things might go well as first. What happens to simple communication? And how is feigning aloofness throughout the whole relationship in order to attract and keep a man supposed to be empowering for women?
Furthermore, this book perpetuates the faulty notion that depending on others, even in love relationship, is bad. Throughout the whole book, Argov constantly reminds the woman to stay independent and cool, and not to show any emotional distress to her partner.
In America and other Western countries, just the word "needy" and "dependent" can bring out intense shame in people. I suspect this has something to do with the high divorce rates. Humans do NEED each other to survive. As a psychology student studying adult relationships and the brain, and I've read plenty of neurobiological and anthropological evidences that illustrate this concept. Couples establish a "bond" for a reason.
A bond happens when people take care of one another, allow themselves to be vulnerable, and DEPEND on each other for support. Romantic partners are not just purely for "enhancement" as Argov claims. This perhaps is a another flawed assumption promoted in the book, to see partners as purely enhancement while suppressing emotional needs to attract and keep them. Following this book's advice will attract the wrong men and drive away men who actually care about your physical and emotional well-being, and yes, the latter exist.
Wow, where do I start I would never have read this book just because of the horrible title. However, I'm glad Marsha explained the title so that I could get by the "horrible" name thing I was dealing with.
This book gave me a little insight to why nice women like myself sometimes finish last and can't seem to get a nice guy in line to "do right" I enjoyed this book Wow, where do I start I enjoyed this book because it gave me a different insight into when nice girls do some of the things that their "mama" taught them in order to "hold a man..
However, chapter 8 was a bit unrealistic for me. This is a smooth read and I'd advise having some page markers available because some areas you will probably want to refer back to for reference. DNF life is too short to read this kind of books. I heard about this book before, but the title discouraged me from reading it, because I thought that "bitches" meant, well, you know, actual bitches. But when a friend insisted that this becomes my "Bible", I thought I'd give it a shot.
The author makes a few valid points. However, I didn't like three things: 1 The movie references. Most guys find the second one to be much sexier. Men like things that are difficult. They like to drive stick-shift automobiles. File Name: sherry argov books free download.
Why Men Love Bitches debunks the myths of male-female relationships and gives you real, insider tips on how to keep the man you want. Sherry Argov, a professional radio show host and writer, has written several number-one bestsellers — mostly relationship guides — and appeared on numerous TV shows, including TMZ , The Today Show and The View.
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